Next week I will give notice to end my lease.
Then we will move my furniture into your house.
Today is the first day to the rest of our forevers.
I know you are scared but I will be here.
This is not what we planned but I am ready.
I can’t replace what you lost but I will bring new hope to your life.
All of my love. All of me. Always and forever.
I promise.
Without you, there would only be me.
I don’t trust myself completely.
Without you there would be no one to act as guide and protector.
I would lose one look out, one eye and one half of reason.
Are you sure I’ll be okay without you? I’m not convinced.
I can’t hold you, or force you. I can only hope you will, for me and you, and us.
Having dated a WHOLE LOT OF PEOPLE, I never imagined the most fulfilling relationship would be with someone four years and three days younger. However dating The Younger Man has proven to be the best decision of my romantic life.
Perks:
a) He has basically no emotional baggage. Clean slate! All for me for trample and mark. He’s never been married or close to married or close to pretend to think about marriage. I know as we get older we are made to accept other peoples emotional crap left by bad breakups and crazy ex’s but I get to totally bypass that! What a relief it has been.
b) He thinks I’m the bees knees. I get automatic cool points for being alive longer and experiencing more. Yes! I do remember the early 90s! Yes! I have travel to far exotic places.
c) Less judgmental. Let’s face it, as we get older we become more less receptive, more cynical and expect everyone to be Just Like Us. He’s yet to hit the stage in life where he hates everyone and is still into experimentation so he bats no eye lid to my coloured past. And he seems to really love me for me.
d) Extra cute. Puppy dog eyes and supple skin? Sold.
e) Expects very little of me. Doesn’t care that I’ve never read Hemmingway or don’t like to eat soft cheeses nor enjoy wine. Doesn’t expect me to know how to rise a souffle or handmake pasta. Doesn’t care that I once farted in my sleep so loud I woke him up.
f) Appreciates everything with great enthusiasm. Even if I make him pasta with tinned tuna and buy him a cheap shirt he will still be super thankful. Minimum effort; maximum appreciation.
g) Is great in the sack. There’s a misconception that experience = better at the sex and therefore lack of experience = bad at the sex. This is not true. When someone is really experienced at something they think they know exactly how it works and is generally not receptive to feedback. Younger man on the other hand has no such misguided thoughts and is all hands on deck ready to learn.
So ladies, and gents, stick it to social convention and open yourself to new possibilities. The rewards are awesome!
St Pat’s.
(via takemeaway-x)
Hey Johnny,
Remember our first “date”? Best night of my life. Even better than ice-skating at 30 Rock.
A x
(Source: thighbruises, via marc-angelo)
He explained his respect for me.
“I wouldn’t do anything that I wouldn’t want you to do, to me. It’s really that simple.” Our conversation was around the changes in our ‘single’ behaviour, when we alone and out with our friends, now that we have each other. Whilst I always felt that’s how respect should be, I never had it articulated to me by a significant other.
Respect earns undoubted trust. Trust builds your love. Love is the driver of your relationship.
I chose to be with the man who never lets me worry about where he is, what he’s doing or who he’s talking to because I know he has me in mind, always. In turn I give him absolute freedom and never doubt his actions or decisions.
Sweet nothing’s…
Ladies, we don’t talk about safe sex or contraception enough. I know it’s embarrassing, and doctors are intimidating but please, if we can review and lament about the best lipstick we can definitely protect ourselves sexually. I will start with a review of all the contraceptives I’ve tried.
- Condoms. Most easily bought and important. Never, ever write off the condom as a contraceptive! It helps prevent disease and infection. Plus you can get it almost anywhere at any time of the day. All convenience stores, petrol stations, supermarkets and chemists stock a variety of condoms! I recommend ALWAYS using a condom with a new partner and only consider stopping after you’ve both been tested negative. I once took my test results straight from the doctors to my ‘partner’s’ house. Call me a whore, but at least I’m safe.
- The Pill. I’ve tried Levlen ($21/3months), Microgynon 35 (cannot recall), Valette ($55/3months), Yasmin ($80/3months), Yaz (which is a varient of Yasmin), and my current holy grail is Loette ($30/3months). The problem I had with all the ones that aren’t Loette is the level of hormone was too high and basically turned me suicidal and crazy. Some girls need high levels of hormones in order to regulate their periods. From my knowledge Diane is the highest, followed by Yasmin and all the others. Loette is a light pill but it’s perfect for me. A lot of doctors these days push Yasmin as it’s the newest to the market and frankly, the most expensive but in my opinion, look else where. There is always a cheaper alternative. If you try any of the pills but start experiencing break through bleeding that lasts more than 2 cycles, try Diane. It has helped a lot of my friends who need high levels of hormones to regulate their cycles. If you feel your pill is making you depressed or killing your sex drive, try Loette.
- The injection. DMPA injections are cheap, last 3-months, and need to be administered by a doctor. They only contain synthetic progestogen though, and will NOT regulate your periods. For some girls this means no period, irregular periods or if you’re unlucky like me, I couldn’t stop my period.
- The implant. Implanon lasts 3-years, is administered by a doctor under local anaesthetic and there will be a slight fee for the procedure, but it is dirt cheap. The Implanon itself is only about $20 with the procedure being another $20, so $40 for 3 years! That’s just over $10/year! Cheering. It’s ingredients are the same as the DMPA injection so I had spot bleeding for months before I cut my loses and had it removed. My friend however, did not experience any bleeding and luckily didn’t her periods for the entire 3-years. There is a way to regulate your cycle whilst on DMPA or Implanon though, and that is by taking a low dosage Pill like Loette. They both lack oestrogen that the pill offers. It’s good as it is added insurance, since you don’t need to remember to take it at the same time everyday etc, but I felt it was a strain on my body to be on DOUBLE the hormones to achieve the same result of pregnancy control.
- The Nuvaring. Now, this is a relatively new invention from our friends the US of A. My female doctor was very enthusiastic at it’s release. Basically, it is a soft plastic ring that looks a lot like those glow in the dark wrist bands you get at raves. You push the two edges together so it comes a long thin shape then put it into your vagina where it lives for 3-weeks releasing progestogen before you take it out to either replace it with a new one if you don’t want your periods or you will get your periods after a few days. I actually really liked this because it doesn’t go through the stomach so the level of hormone is lower and you have the power of regulating your period. BUT it is super expensive and somewhat inconvenient so I stopped using it. It’s around $80 for a pack of 3 which only lasts 9-12 weeks. No, you will not feel it inside you, unless it slides out a bit, which it sometimes did and your partner will not feel it either. If you are really worried about something being inside your vagina whilst being banged stupid, then you can just take it out and put it back in… as long as you don’t forget to put it back in.
- The morning after pill. Luckily I have only used this about 3 or 4 times my whole life. It is for emergencies when you have fucked up and could not use the other contraceptives. It’s around $35 a pop which is NOT CHEAP for a one time fun time. Because it is to be used after the fact, there are a lot more hormones in it. Personally, I’ve never had negative side effects but other friends have suffered from migraines or fatigue or early periods. The good thing about this is you do not to get it from a doctor, any pharmacist will sell it to you over the counter.
THE PULL OUT METHOD IS NOT A METHOD OF CONTRACEPTION BUT AN EXCUSE FOR YOUR BOYFRIEND TO COME ON YOUR BACK OR NECK OR FACE OR BREASTS. DO NOT USE IT TO PREVENT PREGNANCY OR DISEASE.
These are my personal experiences and do not reflect any level of scientific or medical knowledge.
I know it’s hard or embarrassing or annoying or unpleasant to talk to a doctor about your contraceptive, but look at it this way, it better to talk to them about contraceptives than to say “I think I might be pregnant” or worse “I think I contracted something.” Prevention is better than cure. If one doctor makes you uncomfortable or questions your personal choices in a way you don’t like, change doctors. There are 100’s of doctors in Sydney at least, you do not owe them anything, just walk out of you don’t feel right being there. There are understanding and patient doctors who will listen but not judge.
Happy sexing.
Next time I might write a review on sex toys, and how to use them…..
(Source: uncommonlyunique, via takemeaway-x)
